What makes an experience bad, or good? Often it is simple what it’s correlated with or what you believe the sensation indicates
A throbbing, sore left foot is obviously bad, right?
However, if everyone’s left foot was only sore immediately after great sex, I could guarantee you would feel differently about your sore foot.
Every desire, or fear, creates an equal opposite effect. Desiring a romantic partner creates the pain of not having your affections recripocated.
I think the trick is to make choices, wants, that create positive and negative effects in which you are satisfied with having both. Then, go a step further and unpolarize your interpretation of the experience.
There’s no such thing as inherent good and bad, exactly. Most experience couldn’t be classified so simply once you begin to examine why it is good or bad.
The Untethered Soul (michael singer) suggests viewing these experiences, whether pleasurable or painful, as changes in energy. Consequences of events only rarely in your control. Meant [efijwe